Yesterday, I was going out to eat with a friend when I noticed she seemed a bit irritated. I asked her if something was wrong and she proceeded to tell me that she decided to apologize to someone who use to be her friend because she realized that the reason they weren’t friends anymore was because of her. I didn’t really understand how someone could be angry all because they had to apologize but, she continued on to tell me that in return her friend questioned her rudely about a situation that happened years ago. She explained to me that she never apologizes to anyone even if she knows she is wrong and the way her friend responded to her apology made her not want to ever apologize to anyone ever again.
It was important that I share this story because there are some important lessons to learn when it come to apologizing to someone. You shouldn’t expect your apology to be accepted. It’s a hard pill to swallow when someone doesn’t want to forgive you. However, if God layed it on your heart to apologize and you did, then what more can you do? The fact that the other person refuses to forgive you is not your problem once you have tried to make things right. You’ve done your part. As for those of us who have a hard time forgiving, Luke 17:3-4 says, “So watch yourselves. If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them”. This means that if someone sins against you 200 times you still have to forgive them and this includes all sins! Forgiving someone doesn’t make what they did right, but it does mean that 1. You acknowledge that people make mistake and 2. That you don’t want they mistake to control your life any longer! Forgiveness is more for you than the person your forgiving! It sets you free from anger and bitterness! The hard truth is that the people we are still mad at are are moving on with their lives with minimal thought to us.
Comment and tell me what you’ve learned about asking for forgiveness and forgiving! I can’t wait to hear from you!